Loving Someone In Good Ways

Who has ever falling love? And why do you like her/his? Because  you are looking at the clever man/woman? Because you are looking at the handsome/beautiful? Because you are  looking at the rich man/woman? Or because you are looking at the religious man/woman?

Talking about love is never ending. Because many people can’t solve his/her love problems. So, they get hurt everyday because of love. After that, they try to  move on and find his/her new love. Many people happy because of love. We can get affection from someone who loves us, can hearing our problems so well, help and support us when we are down. Who doesn't need love? Everyone need love. Love from our Allah, parents, family, and friends. How about we love someone but we don’t kosher (halal) with us? He/she can be our girl/boyfriend without married. In Al-Qur’an :

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا

Translation : And do not approach adultery; indeed adultery is a cruel act. And a bad road. The right way to love someone who isn’t kosher with us. 

There are some ways what we should do if we love someone. First, you must approach Allah. Approach Him and pray a lot and increase your love for Him, so you will forget that you are loving someone it turns out nothing compared to His kindness. Second, Shalawat for someone who you like. We can grant our dream and hope with shalawat, insyaallah. Ibn Hajar in the book Al-Shawa'iq said, 'Narrated by Imam Ja'far in marfu' that anyone who reads the blessings to the Prophet and his temple expert a hundred times, then Allah granted his reward one hundred hajat, seventy of which was given in the afterlife. Shaykh Al-Suja'i said in the book of Hashiah upon us Al-Shawa'iq, ‘Lafadz shalawat is; Allohumma sholli ‘ala sayyidina muhammadin wa‘ ala aali sayidina muhammadin wa ‘ala baitihi expert.’  Three, do ta'aruf. Ta'aruf is the activity of visiting someone's home to get acquainted with the occupants. If you love someone, you can do ta'aruf because you can avoid us from adultery and immorality. Last, Be patient. Be patient waiting for a mate because Allah will definitely answer it sooner or later, he or no. If not him, then Allah will give better. Let him go and let it go.

Loving someone is a gift. And we must give thanks because it is a favor from God. But, not in love with men who are not lawful for us. this method is the most when loving someone.